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June 29, 2009, 5:44 pm
Flag as Inappropriate MissyA  

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Time For The Talk 

I am a single mother of an 11 year old boy. He just had the sex education class at school this past year and is starting to ask some pretty detailed questions about what he has been taught. Are there any good resource books or aides available for mothers talking to their son? 

June 29, 2009, 7:05 pm
Flag as Inappropriate Jeri says...

Whoa. I wish you the best of luck. It is a shame that they teach them so young. I waited until my son was 13, before I had the "talk" with him. I didn't use a book, I just told him straight forward about the mechanics and have been open for more questions since then.  

June 29, 2009, 7:29 pm
Flag as Inappropriate DanaS says...

This is where life gets tougher and the blushing starts! I have yet to have to deal with it but I'm dreading it when the time comes.

Have you got any relatively basic children's encyclopaedia? That might be a half way decent starting point. 

June 30, 2009, 5:58 am
Flag as Inappropriate Philbo says...

We've been quite open about the subject from day one. All of our children knew the basics before they were eleven. Granted hobby farming with animals tends to lead to certain questions a lot earlier in the game. I would go to your local library. There are a lot of good resources out there. 

June 30, 2009, 3:55 pm
Flag as Inappropriate mikey says...

This is actually a book that a parent friend of mine had gotten (for herself, not her teen) and it may come in use for you. I know the talk is not easy to give, and I am on my way there in that stage myself, but I do plan to get this book. I borrowed my friends and read some, but I would prefer my own.

The Real Truth About Teens and Sex: From Hooking Up to Friends with Benefits -- What Teens Are Thinking, Doing, andTalking About, and How to Help Them Make Smart Choices  

June 30, 2009, 5:41 pm
Flag as Inappropriate NiceJunky says...

This is a very tricky period. The boy is too old for you to avoid answers and too young to give him all the details about those topics. Just Google your questions. Internet is full with tips. 

July 1, 2009, 3:04 pm
Flag as Inappropriate Jackie says...

11 years old is certainly not too young to give all the details to. I'm sorry but if you think they aren't discussing this among themselves at school, you are being very naive. I would guarantee you he already knows the mechanics. What he needs is the ramifications of the act and possibilities to be prepared for. 

July 6, 2009, 11:32 am
Flag as Inappropriate NiceJunky says...

Well, since I was a boy once I pretty much remember how I felt and what I was doing. I was referring to a state where you don't need to burden the boy with some annoying details, but rather to instruct him if he needs some answers that he can turn to you for help. 

July 17, 2009, 5:26 pm
Flag as Inappropriate Kendra says...

I have about 9 more years before I get to that stage and I hope his father will assist him there. I think I will prepare myself too, just in case. I would say, answer the questions as they asked. Give necessary information, chances are, he already knows the answers, just want to see if he can trust you to tell him the right thing, no matter how uncomfortable it is.